People suck (don’t be like other people)

If there is one thing that makes me angry more than anything else it’s the fact that people suck. They can’t communicate, they can’t make or if they do make they can’t keep their commitments.

As I start to transition out of a full-time job at a Television Studio and more into the independence of my business and own brands I am motivated more and more to get the hell out of this place. Why? Because the people I work with suck.

Now a lot of people can say this is political as to why it sucks, which to some extent it is. The issue I have is that while my beliefs and viewpoints differ significantly from others I don’t feel the need to treat them like crap, and judge and attack them for their beliefs. In fact I find that one of the most negative, disrespectful, and often painful things you can do. It’s demeaning, it’s emotionally exhausting to both be on the sending and receiving side of that behavior, and it’s of no value. I would much rather have a respectful conversation about it.

Unfortunately I am a rarity because ever since anyone found out where I stand they intentionally go out of their way to be jerks attacking me for my beliefs, making rude behind my back jokes that I can clearly hear, attacking me for my religious standings, and so much more. What’s worse is it isn’t just co-workers who do this, it is also management that is involved in this.

I had to choose how to handle this, do I go to the non-existent Human Resources department that would be useless since we don’t actually have a physical Human Resources department? Do I turn around and attack them the same way they attack me? Or do I choose to be respectful and oftentimes not respond but choose to be nice, polite, and kind in return avoiding the negative topics altogether?

The easy answer is to turn around and treat them as they are treating me. Instead I have chosen to stand and take the shots they send at me on a regular basis, and instead allow it to inspire me to be better then them, to motivate me to work my ass off to get out of the hell I go through for 10–12 hours a day. To be better than them professionally, personally, emotionally, and spiritually.

As I am writing this article I have been very burned out dealing with the non-stop attacks, and only having two co-workers in which I have any respect for. On top of dealing with the emotional terror at work, I have had my own personal health issues to deal with at the same time.

I’m not going to lie, turning to their ways and becoming the problem like them has been tempting, and very hard to avoid. But since when has the answer to a problem been to become a part of the problem? How is that a solution in any way?

As I say that I am working a short week taking a 4-day long weekend to be able to work my ass off to push forward with my business and other brands bringing me closer to leaving the problem. You can’t make others change, but you can’t cut out people who have a negative impact on your life. The people who suck, need to be cut out no matter how easy, or difficult it is to do.

Conclusion: Eliminate Toxicity

To close out I want to reference how I’ve had to give similar advice to friends who have been in very toxic relationships. Two of my closest friends had emotionally, and at times physically abusive boyfriends.

One of these friends for years I warned her about this boyfriend, I could see how he was manipulating and taking advantage of her. She has an amazing heart, full of love, grace and mercy for others. It took several years after he betrayed her several times for her to finally leave him, and she is working through the pain left behind in her heart. As she works through this pain and overcomes it she is returning to her loving heart and is more determined to better herself then ever!

The other friend I have not known for too long, but she is someone that I developed a friendship with very quickly. Before I knew her she was in an abusive relationship. Her and I happen to also be co-workers with each other. I remember everyday she came she was always in a very depressed state, and it always had something to do with her loser boyfriend. When she finally broke up with him everything flipped around, she became a much more happy individual. Sure she is still dealing with depression, anxiety, and loneliness, it is not an instant perfect life when you remove toxicity, but it does get better.

What or who is a toxicity in your life?

What do you need to do to eliminate that toxicity?

Are you stooping to their, or it’s level, or are you being a better individual?

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